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Well, tomorrow would have been our 19th anniversary. Ironically, I will be spending time with both our best man and maid of honor and never realized what the date would be when I made the original plans.

I am going shopping with my sister and her baby (she was my maid of honor). Then my best friend and her husband (our best man) invited me over for dinner. I usually have dinner with them once a week and our regular dinner day is tomorrow. My son, who was a mere hope of a blessing in our future together back then,, will be working but should be home by 9:00 pm, so I can finish off the evening with his company.

I will be surrounded by such good company - don't think I could be more blessed!

Jerry-I will be thinking of you tomorrow. I am glad you have plans to keep you busy. Spending time with people who care about you on your Anniversary should help you get through the day. If a few tears come I am sure they will understand. My first Anniversary without Jim came in August amd I planned it carefully but I still cried through the whole day. Think of the good times tomorrow and the love you felt for each other. That alone should get you through the day. Also know I send my love to you.

Jerry, my thoughts are with you today. January 26th would have been my 19th. It was tough even though I planned a getaway to Mexico. Good thing I had a balcony in my room since I didn't leave it until the afternoon. Anyway, the day is hard no matter what you do, but as always, we make it through.

Hi Jerry,
I will be thinking about you tomorrow and hope you have a peaceful day. This April would have been our 42nd anniversary. Last year I knew what I had to do on our anniversary, we had told each other that if anything ever happened to either of us the other would go to a special park and place that we had decided upon and if possible we would somehow be together. I did go it was very hard but somehow I knew he was there in spirit. I will do the same this April. No one knows about this except the ladies on FWO. I think you ladies are the only ones who would understand and not think I was crazy.
Gerri

Gerri-People already think I am crazy. I tell them Jim is with me , his spirit that is. I think that is wonderful what you did for you anniversary. I do the same thing at a favorite spot of ours. I released balloons there last August for our anniversary.

Thank you all so much. I am so grateful to have found FWO and never dreamed I would have been blessed with such wonderful support. You all are in my thoughts throughout each day. :)

the only ones I think are crazy are the spammers!!!!

Jerry I hope you had a good day today filled with great memories. Every time I think of my wedding day I can't help but get a huge grin on my face remembering the uniqueness of our wedding and the laughter sharred with friends. On April 9th it would have been 33 years, seems like only a moment ago.
Fran

I hope you had as good a day as you could....
I just saw this now..
I dont know how I will get thru april 3. 2nd year alone...
i just made a whole new topic on it.

it is so nice to be around people you care for and care for you.....

((Hugs))) coco

Thank you all for your kind support - each and everyone.

Thankfully, the day was not as bad as anticipated and I do think in part because I was so fortunate to spend it with the people Ron and I loved so much. I also had a phone call from my niece that was totally unexpected - just to let me know she knew it was our anniversary and was thinking of me.

My dear friends and I spent some of our time at dinner talking about some of the happy memories from our wedding as our best man has always been the creator of much humor and when both he and Ron were together, well lots of funnies to remember.

It is nice to finally be able to begin to remember more memories of good times with Ron that do not involve his illness. For me, these are sure signs that there is healing present in my life. I know he would be laughing with us and so happy we were remembering the good times and not the bad as that's they way I am CERTAIN he would want us to think of him.

Yes, there is something good in every day, eventually...